Hey all,

I've got a little problem.

Things with my guy recently started getting better after a few months of things being real crappy. We've upped our communication skills, my anxiety's gotten better, and he's a lot more attentive to my needs.

However, there's still some things we're working on. On top of that, we recently became long distance after living together for over a year, and—guess what—I feel great. Before this I was a young, single woman who did whatever she wanted. I know that being in a relationship means spending your time with that person but... for the past few days I've been relishing in all my alone time.

I've discussed wanting alone time with my SO before, and he recognizes I need it. So I see this panning out in a few different ways:

* SO and I continue this long distance thing. After that, we still live together but we figure out a system where I plan my own nights where I spend it alone/just with my friends. Pros: Relationship stays. We can continue having adventures together and separately. Cons: My SO goes CRAZY without me. I find it easy to be alone, and might prefer it...

* SO and I take a break. We can focus on ourselves, figure out how much we really need each other, etc.
Cons: His heart would be broken. I tried asking for a break before and he didn't take it well.

*SO and I take a break, for good. Pros: I get to be independent, travel where I want, work where I want, etc.
Cons: SO's heart would be broken. He can't sleep or eat without me. I just don't know if I can return all that love....

I almost feel like I'm not a relationship person... I like spending evenings alone, I like going where I want when I want. My guy's so into me it's intimidating. I just want to have fun with life . I feel awful because he's really a great guy. I just keep finding tiny flaws in him and I'm not if I can keep fixing things. Right now I'm also sort of stuck with him because it's hard to go long distance unless we absolutely have to. But my career enables me to travel around and I want to do that! But I really can't while in a relationship, at least not one like this.

What do I do? When do I tell him about my feelings? He's visiting in a couple weeks... I also keep flip-flopping. A few days ago I was feeling hopeful about things, but lately I just can't shake this feeling.