Him not taking it well, him being heartbroken if you leave are not valid reasons for staying.
They make you his prisoner not his partner.
In the extreme, all he would have to do is get upset and you would stay.
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He can't sleep or eat without me. I just don't know if I can return all that love.
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In my opinion that is not love.
Love has to do with putting the beloved above self, with cultivating and supporting their growth. When he is kind to you, he is being loving. But if he cannot function when the relationship with you is not how he wants it to be, then his relationship with you is not loving, it is his crutch.
He survived and grew for X years before he met you. He can do that again.
Have you read about codependency? It might be helpful. Codependency occurs when one party gets their way by causing, or threatening to cause, unpleasant emotional responses in their partner.