I understood that OP's question was about whether "they" deliberately manipulate patient's feelings. So the question is who are "they". I thought that in this context "they" does not refer to an average US therapist/councelor, regardless whether this therapist talks about transference or not. This response was coming from a person who seems to be very deeply rooted in the psychoanalytic world and thus, "they" can only be psychoanalysts.

Also, it seems to me that the cited person does not express himself very well in English and at the same time, he doesn't seem to put much effort into been liked by an average psychotherapy patient, for whom his tone is probably way too direct and strong. But so what? This is quora and anyone can answer in the way they see fit.

Also, I would like to remind that in order to become an analyst, this person had to go through his own full analysis, hence those words he wrote applied not only to his patients to himself as well. Considering that, I don't see the tone being authoritative because essentially all are equal - in psychoanalysis everyone is a patient too.

I would just say that according to my understanding psychoanalysis is such a complicated matter and trying to explain it in simple words will not explain anything. It is just so different from regular psychotherapy. The only way to learn about it is to experience it itself (hence the requirement for full training analysis). And I'm absolutely not implying that everyone or anyone should want to learn about it.

In the context of analysis the suggestion to talk about those problems in session with the analyst is very relevant and the most right thing to do. The only problem is probably that the person asking the question asked it from the viewpoint of regular (person-centered?) psychotherapy where transference is to some extent acknowledged but not worked with in depth as in psychoanalysis. Thus, this answer is just probably not very useful but rather confusing to the person who asked this question.