Quote:
Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Yeah, that's how he sees it, as useful feedback that could help me with outside relationships. Which I can understand, but is difficult when I'm used to ex-MC's saying everything I say/do is OK (well, until it suddenly wasn't). And of course, then my mind also starts wondering what other people in my life are thinking of me, and wondering if they feel how he does, and if I've screwed up relationships in the past because of it. Which can send me into a spiral of sorts...
|
Sure, I get that (like I said, Piaf). But do you think maybe you can take a deep breath and focus on the therapist in front of you and what he's saying and ignore all those little voices that want you to stay stuck in the past?
Because this didn't just start with MC--there was a high school teacher, right?--so it has affected your life with at least two people.
And again it's not about blame or you screwing up. We all screw up. Anyone who always tells someone else that what they are doing is OK is not doing them any favors, because none of us do things that are OK all the time.
The past is done with. The future is what matters, and this is what this guy, much as I dislike him at times, is trying to steer you towards.