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Old Sep 03, 2018, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted by unaluna View Post
(((LT))) Things might be spiraling for you, but i dont see that they spiraled for him. I see that he resisted being drawn into your spiral. He just kept repeating, we will talk about it tuesday.

I think if you look at your emails, you can see for yourself, the initial one was, as another poster said, not indicative of crisis, but pretty obviously just wanting to reach out.

But once you put that out there, wow "bossy LT" comes out. Can you write what is going on for you in that 24 hours, while you are holding your breath, waiting for him to get back to you? Yes, you are probably affecting him during that time, but what about the feelings you have set loose in yourself? Dont look out the window, look in your own heart.

I'm not sure it's as much "bossy LT" as "little kid LT." The rational adult isn't there anymore. I thought about typing out what I had thought throughout the weekend regarding the emails, maybe to make him understand better. Like the emotions that came out. I want to also examine with him where those feelings come from. Like what from my past is being triggered? How can I process that so I don't keep repeating this pattern?
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Thanks for this!
DP_2017, unaluna