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Originally Posted by SorryNorma
His tone seems exasperated, disengaged from your needs, and cold. Whether or not you should have emailed him numerous times is not really up for discussion - it is simply a manifestation of your attachment/transference experiences and as such it is the therapy work itself. If a therapist engages in email contact, they need to be able to manage their feelings around the potential intrusions and associated significant client need. His annoyance is thinly disguised. I hope your session goes well.
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I agree with this, and also believe that this therapist should simply never have allowed email contact with OP except for scheduling or unless there is a true crisis, with clear definitions of what "crisis" means.
And this thing with the stone is also very weird. I don't know the whole story but: Either give it or don't give it. Don't give it, then take it away because you're weirded out, and then consult with people and report back to the client that these strangers agreed that your discomfort is valid and needs no explanation, and then give it again but only conditionally and then, knowing how important it is to her, when the client expresses worry over having to give it back, ignore her request to hold on to it. Doesn't this repeat the intermittent reinforcement pattern by the last therapist that caused such a problem and messed with OP's head, which you are talking about so much in therapy? Also, you don't need to tell her your explanation for your discomfort, but you need to tell her that you talked about her with strangers and that they agreed with your assessment and validated
you? Why do you need to tell her this at all? Doesn't that only feed OP's fears about herself?
