OK yeah that makes no sense. I get that these things are sensative and you gotta be careful with what you say. But how can anyone really be of any help if you aren't honest and up front about the problem?
I'm on another forum where only the host is allowed to post. Not only that but you aren't allowed to give any details about alters and they are not allowed to post. So...not being allowed to say these things kinda defeats the purpose.