This is the part I am unsure of. Isnt it contradicting.

Her: Whatever the reality may be for you - that something abusive May have happened, that you adopted some unhealthy coping mechanisms, etc...

Me: I dont know my reality. That's my problem.

Her: Yes!

Me: I get the feeling you want me to accept I was sexually abused and are just not saying that.

Her: NO- I'm saying you dont know thats your reality.