I have an almost 18 year old HS senior. Bi-polar, anxiety and severe OCD
My wife and I do everything in our power to accommodate him. We love him
I have Bi-polar disorder, anxiety and minor OCD

I had been feeling quite well for a couple of weeks which is a rarity. Last night, a small thing set off our child. He threw a bottle of pills all over the floor because someone put the lid on the bottle. I guess his OCD didn't like that. I asked if he was going to take them from the floor. He took exception to that and threw a banana against the wall and began shouting. I tried to remain calm...in his tirade, he spit. All over our table including our dinner. When I, still sitting and trying to remain calm, tried to reason with him, he went ballistic and began threatening me, hollering, and went as far as to pick up a glass bottle to hit me with.

My wife and daughter were holding him back at this point. I wanted them out of the way so that I could take care of the problem. My way may not be the right way, but I can't just sit back and let him do these things.

At this point, I become irate and scream, holler, and begin to hit and break things. My daughter is upset, my wife is upset, and my son goes upstairs. My wife says that she diffused the situation, and that my 'tantrum' is out of line.

It always seems that when he goes off like this, I'm always the one in the wrong. I'm not trying to whine here, but I have issues of my own. He exacerbates them. This is not the first time. I think I'm sort of the scapegoat because I'm the easy target. My wife and I end up at each other's throats, my daughter is extremely upset, and I'm ready to do bad things to myself. I'm really in a no win situation. I'm really hurting right now.