If you really think that it will surely change when you have to go through treatment or the pain of not having treatment. My husband has had melanoma and colon cancer. My sister is currently going through treatment for breast cancer. It's hard to be witness to, but much harder to be the one who has to brave the treatment. It's an experience that changes you whether you are the patient or the caregiver. I feel for you that you feel so bad. That is hard to but please try to be more sensitive.