Wow..i know how it feels to geel..inferior? compairng yourslef to some1 outside there.........

It matters to you right now how she is......I had the same siturations wehn moving to Tel Aviv and being a student and feeling not successful compairng to ther students........

I think that sometimes looking onjectivly at things can help.

What does your sister in low has that you don`t?
Do you HVAE to stay in hong kong or you can go back to the US where you were happy?

Are you sure that it`s ture? 100% trure? EVERYTHING you say about your sister in low?

From what you write i see that you just don`t like the place? And why betrayed?

It`s hard to stop comparing...the point is to remember who you are and what you are........it happenes when you stay open..whne you have something meaningful to say or to think to be,.to feel it in your exiastence...then you are experiencing that thing...osme mroe freedoim and TRUTH rather than superficial stuff that siciety makes up.........like thos make up and clothes....

I personally look at it differently. I don`t have a feeling that some1 who throws money on clohting and makeup and dresses 2 hous is better than some1 who learned to live a more "simple" or should i say modest life and leared to save money and to overcome your supecficia wants.

Why do you feel worse when you compare?
If i compare from your descripiton you win and she looses.......
Now of course it dependes here on how much objective you are, because i rememebr myself too it`s impossible to be objective.......but let`s sya it`s tirue-

Thank she is a spoilt control freak and you are a normal woman.
What do you want? you are BETTER that her~

Don`t consider superficialy htings like make up and cloth ....

I htink relying on your vlues may help. You probably have something you believe in don`t you?