Thanks. I agree you can see this as a singular action but to me it tells about how/on what level my T cares about me and how she looks upon our relationship.
Even if I and my T holds different positions in the relationship, and itīs partly two different situations, but if I turned up at her office (she has no colleagues who are therapists nor a reception) and she didnīt show I wouldnīt just walk away from there.
I would try at least once to call her, Iīve got her mobile number, and if she then didnīt answer I had waited a few minutes more and then probably tried once more later or tried to contact someone in the same building.
So why couldnīt a T/she do something similar?
As this tells about more than just how one acts in this very situation, I find it very important how a T choses to handle it.
I though agree that it for me is a bit like looking for inconsistency as I feel itīs difficult to on one hand accept a hug from her and at the same time know that she wouldnīt call or bother if I didnīt show anymore. I find that inconsistent and to care in one situation but not in another. Also, many T:s do call their clients in a situation like the one I described so itīs not just me reacting to this.
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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I am always prompt and cancel in advance when necessary. I don't play games and act out. I am in no way unstable. But recently I got caught in a traffic jam due to an accident ahead of me and was 5-6 minutes late. My T was calling my cell as I walked into the office. I found it annoying because it was treating me as an irresponsible child who need checking up on--and told her so. Would I choose to end therapy because of her singular action? No, so why would the reverse be true?
Maybe the issue is more about finding some inconsistency/inadequacy/reason to walk away.
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