Calling clients isn't evidence of caring. Many psychological philosophies expressly caution against it. My suspicion is that the Ts who do so, do it not as an expression of caring for the client (unless the client is known to be in a dangerously fragile state and even then I think it's motivated as much by legal concerns), but rather out of insecurity as professionals.

You are the one characterizing it as an indication of caring; you have no way of knowing if she sees it the same way.


Your calling her if she didn't show up isn't equivalent because she has an obligation as a professional to be there at the agreed upon time. You have no such obligation as a client.