My t told me one time that "this relationship is your work". I wonder if she meant the same thing. I never asked her to explain. I get the push/pull thing I do it all the time. I have quit (and gone back) several times over almost 7 years now. It is a weird, convoluted relationship that is for sure but ultimately has been very healing for me, as frustrated with it that I get sometimes. I am very attached to my t.