it took long enough for me to finally accept her death and the reasons. I would say when we got the autopsy results back for that and it was 5 months. acceptance is the first step in the healing I think. I think maybe the wanting to exit was way sooner than that though. some are sooner than others. your mom had cancer right? you have to start thinking about would you really want her to still be here and in that kind of pain. she surely would not want to be here like that. of all the ones I have lost in my life there is not one person I would want to come back like they were. I am a pretty religious person though and I know in my heart the ones I have lost are in a much better place with whole new bodies and no more pain.