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Originally Posted by tecomsin
The dire financial situation of many teachers has also made the news recently and teacher strikes have had some success. Maybe you could get involved as a volunteer in a teacher's union or organization one day down the line (I'm not talking about right now...) . You could network with teachers in other states who have succeeded in getting raises and improvements in working conditions and maybe start a blog.
I'm glad to hear your mother is helping you out on something that really matters, like paying a bill, to the extent that she can. Sometimes when our illnesses act up in can be hard to see people other than in black and white terms whereas the truth is so much more complicated.
You could also ask your mom to limit texts and emails as you do not find them helpful. You can ask her to refrain from sending you messages when you are upset without blaming her. Just try to nudge her in a different direction...
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I think you are right about all of this. I will tell my mom not to text or email immediately after hearing about a psych crisis. I'll tell her to process things first and once she is calm if she wants to text or email and then re-read it a few times and think about how she would feel had she gotten a message like that from her mother when she was my age.
My mom also had me very young; I was born 3 days before she turned 19, so she was pregnant at age 18 and married my father just a few months before I was born (I believe the fast marriage was for appearance sake),then my other sister came along 16 months later, then 4 years later my youngest sister. She never had the time to be on her own much. I know she was going to community college with one of her friends (commuting together) and couldn't finish her degree until I was around 8th grade or so. I don't think she got to enjoy college much as she had me (my grandmother taking care of me while she was in class) and pregnant with my sister so soon after. In fact we all (including my dad) lived with my maternal grandparents until my next sister was born. I think this affected her quite a bit too. She has often said she wishes she had had us when she was older and waited to marry. Not that she didn't want us; just she felt things would have been easier if she had been older, and I can't blame her for that. I had my daughter when I was 29, just one child, and that was and still is a handful for me even though I love my daughter to pieces. That is also why the CPS case is tearing me up.
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