I fall into the relationship camp because I'm extremely analytical and evidence-based, as well as because it was my experience, but I can't stomach Yalom. Pass the club!

That said, while the relationship was a driver (not a focus) in therapy with my former T, we hardly ever talked about it while it was a driver. And he would never have said anything remotely like, "it's the relationship that heals." The only reason for talking about it at all was at the point of resolving the transference. I think too many Ts who spout such rhetoric have no clue of the psychoanalytic underpinnings of the relationship and its part in transference and just see it as a warm fuzzy--and that can lead to unpredictable consequences for some clients.