I know I'm sounding like a broken record here but it's the chicken and the egg question. I don't buy the notion that a person can simply decide to have self confidence and there it is. It goes along the same lines as people telling those of us with depression to "just snap out of it." My opinion is that self confidence is the result of how you've been treated by others. And here I go again saying this but, unfortunately, the main factor in determining that is one's appearance. Scientific studies have confirmed this. Even the youngest babies have been shown to have better responses to pictures of attractive people, as opposed to less attractive ones. Beauty is so much more objective than we want to think.

BTW, 1dayatatime. If you were really as unattractive as you claimed, you'd not only be single but completely alone.