It could in part be in spite of how you feel about the topic of hair? My own mom couldn't understand why I didn't embrace wearing brighter colors. So black it was.

At some point after having had my own kids, I had fun with hair coloring. Aww man, ohhhh it's too red...ooohhh that black is too dark on you she would say. (eta...funny...my grays grow in silver! Ha! Myth debunked)

Gasp...is that a tattoo with this tongue click when I was 22. But ahhhh...years later a decade or so when my cousin got one...how lovely it was?? Huh?

Not living under the shadow is such a huge thing in the Mother/Daughter Dance.

Is she going through some hormonal changes, hence your desire to buy her a scale? Most women I know, even in discussions about history of weight, have fluctuated over various points in time. It's no biggie, really, at some point as girls then women, we figure it out and accept.