Hi Hopeful. I am thinking if there is already hesitation and doubt, maybe you two should take it down a notch. Just get to enjoy each other. Its seems like she is in a rush to have kids, maybe because of her age? It all seems like too much, too fast. Maybe try to live together for at least a year first. See how you two get along sharing bills, sharing chores and when something goes awry, how do you two cope? Money is the root of evil. It will make or break you and your relationship.

It seems like you are doing everything to respect what she wants such as the timeline...but is she giving back? What do you want? What do you need from her?

If she is still healing from her last marriage, she needs time too, to get her head straight.

As for the money, I hope you two will work on a budget and stick to it. She cant expect you to pay for half of everything, when you make half of her income.

I hope this helps you. Take care and good luck!!!