There has been no time for my T to disclose much about himself. We get a lot of work done. He has disclosed things as it relates to something we are discussing but nothing that is over the top.

I have a lot of affection for my T and if he disclosed any issues or problems in life I would want to take care of his feelings and shift the session to him. This has happened with my last T. He told me way to much and session sometimes was half about him. He did turn out now to be a platonic friend and we talk to each other over the phone every couple of months but when I was seeing him for therapy, therapy was not happening anymore for me.

I do not want my T to be a robot or a blank book. I need to see his flaws, I need to see he struggles like the rest of us but at least has his stuff together as to take on my pain and sit with it during session.

I wonder a lot about how he finds the time to answer all my emails and call me between sessions when I am struggling. I mean he has a practice, a wife, kids...........I do not have all that on my plate and I struggle just to make it through the day and get trivial things done. If he disclosed how busy he was and how overwhelming it was then I would feel so guilty for always being needy and I would hold back, suffer alone, and not progress.