Thank you all for your support and kind words.

My son is a senior in High School. He had a lot of trouble with classes last year...couldn't handle the structure. He did some legwork and found out that he was eligible to do his coursework online. He is still in school and takes some classes in person, but does most of them online (at school in a separate room). He did very well last year and is continuing with the same plan this year.

The NAMI group sounds like a good idea and I'll check into that.

DBT-we started in a research study, but transferred out of it to do the family based program. We may well go back to the study.

It's really hard to keep myself in check when he lashes out. All of his anger and aggression is directed towards me (I'd rather have it towards me than at his mother or sister). Life is tough. No way around it. I just want it to be tolerable. I want there to not be tension in my house all of the time.