If I were in your daughter's position, I would feel very unloved. Why does she have to look like what YOU consider attractive? Why don't you let her be herself? Do you accept and love her as she is, or don't you?

You've made it clear to her that you don't approve of her unless she looks a certain way. Don't be surprised if she runs away from home. Oh, and the attack on the step-mother--harsh. Thanks for letting everybody on this forum who struggles with weight issues know exactly what you think of them.