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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
Not to be flippant, but crying is a normal reaction to loss, and grief is a *#$*# to go through. Grief is like a little insane wrapped up in sadness.
But why stop crying until you're done? I'm pretty sure you won't be crying when you wake up tomorrow. Just let it be.
I don't know how to start talking about this with your Tony the Tiger, but I could suggest beginning with "I really need to talk about things with __. I talked to her on the phone last week, and I've been so sad and upset since then."
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Thanks Anne2.0. I'm really not used to crying. It's a different reaction for me. Even when I stopped seeing T1 who I saw for about 3 years, I was just like, okay, well, I guess that's it. I am crying less today. I can't say I'm done crying, but it is less. I guess eventually one has to be done crying. Some people say crying is cathartic. That's not been my experience, but besides being worn out and headachy, I don't feel as bad as I thought I would after doing a lot of crying. I guess I'm worried about bringing up my old T with my new T. Seems kind of awkward. But that's what I've been dealing with so it seems like I need to bring it up. And new T might have some insights or something that would help ending things with old T. I think I need to get over feeling awkward or embarrassed or whatever so that I can talk to new T about old T. I have to do it at the beginning of the session or it just won't happen. I know me. I will sit there and the time will wind down and I will want to bring it up and then the time will be over. I'll have to do it right away. I'm scared and I don't even know why. Maybe I feel like Tony the Tiger T will be irritated at talking about ending things with my old T. Or she will feel sidelined or something. I'm worried too much about what she will think or feel when I need to be focused on what I'm feeling. I didn't realize that until I wrote it out here in the response. I need to remember that.