I agree with Candy.

I'm maintain, I'm not attractive. My husband finds me attractive (I try not to ask why). I believe I have the choice to believe the bad things people say about me, or to believe the good. I choose good.

It sounds like we had a similar childhood. I had parents who loved me and a family that loved me. School was harder. I joined band and choir...I found true friends in these organizations that were great people that overlooked my physical appearance..or loved me in spite of it.

Generally, I believe people are good. This is my choice. It's a curse at times. I was also taught, "don't put yourself down...there are enough people who will do that for you". Cliche, I know.

This is where we diverge in thinking. I refuse, (REFUSE) to allow myself to use my appearance as an excuse. I believe you teach people how to treat you. One medical study...or even several, will not convince me of anything. If you enter every situation, expecting the least of people...chances are, they won't disappoint you.

I choose to view people from the insides. The kind of person they are. Do I notice if they are pretty? Sure. I won't be as asinine as to say I don't "see" people's appearance (like those who say I don't "see" color). I do. I simply choose not to allow physical appearance to dictate my perception of someone's true...inner beauty.

I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.

I'm off now...lol