We have had much trouble grounding ourselves in the past, still do sometimes I suppose, but we have am inside tweenager who has become increasingly more proficient at switching us out of triggers. I don't really understand how or why she took on that role but it has been immensely helpful.

She doesn't seem to be able to do it immediately, so we still experience times when we are stuck in a trigger but she gets better and better at stepping in earlier and switching in. Once she is out she removed us from whatever the trigger is and goes to self care. We have found this extremely helpful. I suppose it is fair to say we are getting better at noticing we are triggered and inviting her to step in as well.

But, as I said, I don't know how this developed, it is a newish thing (has developed more over the last year) but it is a game changer for us.