You can't see the break for what it was because you've had a lifetime of breaks from your mother and adopted mother and all that got kept in.

I've told you how when I complained about my husband once, my T said, "Now how long did his mother know him? And how long did his wife know him?" The clincher being, "And how long have you known him?" because I'd only gotten my hands on him a couple years earlier versus 45 years/the rest of his life. It doesn't happen any faster than weight loss I don't think, despite how fast one can gain weight. I think they're in a conspiracy together.