I'm so happy you had the courage to tell him how you felt. When I was working at my first job, there was an elderly man who was a regular at the grocery store. He was friendly enough so I thought nothing of his kindness. I'm a generally cheerful and smiley person so maybe he thought that was an okay? I don't see how though. Am I supposed to be mean at work? Besides, this man was married and old enough to be my grandfather. I started that job when I was only 19.

But sure enough, I was standing near the doorway when he came into the store. I smiled and said hello and out of nowhere he got close and gave me a peck on the lips. A male coworker saw it and laughed. I felt so low and ashamed. There was another regular who out of nowhere said to me, "You like to be tied up don't you." A male coworker was laughing and replied that I do. The other male coworkers laughed as well (we were all peers so that shows their maturity level). Again, I didn't really no what to do. I wasn't raised knowing how men are to treat women either so I froze.

There was another incident where I just finally told my manager what this man had said. Thankfully, I didn't see that man anymore. Actually, I've had a lot of much older men inappropriately hitting on me without a care since I was fourteen. Thus goes one of our struggles as women. I always appreciate when I man politely tries to get to know me and politely backs off when I decline his advances.

Girl, all of this to say I understand. I don't really have an answer because I still get scared when it comes to men, and I still don't really know how to handle inappropriate comments and such. Sometimes it feels like we risk our lives just by speaking up.

I'm so glad you had the courage to speak up and get help and support!