Grrrr. Just grrrr.

You clearly don't love your daughter.

No mother who loves her daughter would say nasty, hateful things like she's fat and ugly and a mess. I wish she lived with me. I'd teach her to love and accept herself the way she is. Because if she had some self-esteem, maybe she might be more interested in taking better care of herself. And you're not going to build her self-esteem by saying things like that.

I'm going to have to leave this thread. The OP is seriously triggering my PTSD.