Don't most teenage girls dress down these days, as it is? I see it quite often.

I'm kinda of hoping that though writing about your frustrations about the whole situation here, that it's not seaping out this way to her? I'm still of an opinion that hormones in some can create weight fluctuations. Funniest thing for me was no matter what I tried in my late teens early 20s there was this 1 weight that I just could not dip below. After kids, poof...bam I dipped below that weightline. So it's kind of unfair in childbearing years to castigate over the padding many women get.

My mom was opposite over eyemakup. A happy medium was eventually found.

In divorce, it's truly too easy to carry forth the bitterness between parents. My parents were in overdrive where their divorce was concerned. I'm conscientious where my own divorce is concerned. Kids eventually grow up and figure out where the marriage soured. Why make that transition for them in resolving truth more complicated than it needs to be?

My relationship with my sons is mine, my exes with them is theirs.

Certainly, your daughter will grow and mature into being her own woman. Maybe she'll embrace make up, maybe she won't? Does she have sensitive eyes? My gram can/could barely wear eye makeup because her eyes would swell and get puffy. She would wear lipstick. I really cannot remember my mom with eyeshadow. Lacking femininity would certainly not be used to describe either my gram or mom. Might be something to consider?

Edit to add: I need to say also about how my post comes accross as at peace regarding my parents divorce, etc....Do you know how many years I have spent in therapy plus with self help, group support like this? Much anger and many tears? Too many to count. I need to say that.