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Originally Posted by Quarter life
Hi joebruin.
Whilst I totally agree that it is your daughter's choice on who to marry and when to marry, I also totally appreciate your concern. Once she is married you lose control in being her protector, as her new husband will presumably step into that role. My advice to you would be to have a frank yet positive chat about her future plans and how her new medication is going. Let her know that should she ever need support in any way that you will always be there, and most important of all that you love her and wish her every happiness in her new marriage. This is really all that you can do.
It is also my hope that her fiancé is aware of her struggles, and is in a position to provide support and reassurance......however, a difficult subject to broach with her.
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She has been dating him for 18 months and I always thought he was helping her with depression only to find out another male friend who also has depression was helping her. After she got engaged, a month later she went on a vacation with her friend that helped with depression for a week in Shanghai. She didn't tell either guy. She went on other dates with the young man that has depression. Then she called off the engagement hoping the other young man would ask her to marry. Well that didn't work out and she's back with the guy she was engaged too. This was all from a period from late may to early August. The point of this story is her future husband was not the support for depression and suicide the whole time they have been dating and the relative ease she went on and off with her future husband. That's also why I think she is not stable mentally to get married.