As a guy, I can confidently say guys are stupid. My wife should have left me in 1992. Years ago, I was in sales and I did a lot of traveling. While I was away, my wife opened the cable bill and saw that I had ordered a porn movie. She wasn't happy about it and I threw myself at the mercy of the court. What can I say, it was a stupid decision. We got though it, no big deal. I didn't run to another woman, I just ordered a movie. And, in a way, I was using the family money. Relationships go though ups and downs. True, there are unforgivable transgressions but if he didn't run to another woman, I don't see the issue here. Money is money - bah, it has gone through my hands like water. I've spent more money on drugs and booze than I care to admit. The core of the relationship is the strength we draw from each other. I need my wife and she needs me. There are boundaries for sure, but there are forgivable mistakes as well.