I think it’s more to the story in regards to losing custody. Even if court places a child with one parent as primary residence, other parent doesn’t lose legal custody. Especially not if said child is only 2 years old.

The fact that you don’t have legal custody (not being able to take her to a doctor as you said before etc)says there is more to it than you missing court date. I was a primary parent as my daughter lived with me and visited her dad but he never lost legal custody and had just as many rights as me in regards to making decisions. Losing custody and where child lives isn’t the same thing

You also said you had supervised visitations and then completely lost visitation rights and only recently got it back. Courts rarely ever take visitation rights away. At the worst scenario visitation is supervised. Regardless why you lost it, it can’t be that easy on your daughter

Your daughter also had ton of emotional distress over you bringing in all kind of dangerous inappropriate men into her life and put her into distressing situations. She might still have conflicting feelings about it

Sure we all make mistakes or get into a bad place in life. But if you are in a better place now, try a bit different approach.

I think you need to focus on what’s more important.

Like trying to build relationship with her where she feels safe and loved rather than worrying if she wears eye makeup. Trying to understand who she is as a person not worrying about her looks. This isn’t the first time you have all kind of complains about her like her sexual orientation etc Now you are calling her fat and ugly (behind her back or to her face-it’s kind of extreme)

Are you seeing a therapist? Your relationship with your daughter could be discussed there and worked on in therapy if you find it tough to tackle. Parenting is hard