Logically, I understand the idea that some sort of interdependence with T is good, but I’m having a hard time feeling comfortable with it. I am not saying it is an entirely good thing, but based on my upbringing I have become pretty fiercely independent and this has helped me be successful at work. The downside is that it makes my time in therapy (and maybe personal relationships) more difficult. Right now, I have a hard time with the lopsidedness of the therapy relationship and I don’t know how to get past that.

I’m wondering, do you think that in a healthy therapeutic relationship the attachment can be somewhat reciprocal? Or does it have to be uneven by design?