I understand. It wasn't until a therapist had me take the Myers-Briggs Inventory that I found out who I was and became more of who I'm meant to be. Here's the book that changed my life:
http://www.amazon.com/Please-Underst...3969907&sr=8-1

I've noticed that the NF types are the ones who cherish this book. The NT types want to argue with it and refuse to be categorized. The SP types are having too much fun to care and the SJ types think everyone should be like them.