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Its sounds like are in a very painful situation. Sounds like to are aware of where the strong feelings are coming and that they are transference. Unfortunately that knowledge is not helping to reduce the pain, stop the transfer, and develop a new stimuli--response reaction.

Perna suggesting like emotional reconditioning? To dissolve this negative association and replace it with a positive one requires repeated exposures that result in a positive outcome until you construct a new positive/neural association? This does not sound fun!