I thought I was a 'mirror narcissist' because I kept falling in love with or being fascinated with narcissistic types. But in therapy, I was told schizoid. What I have realised is that having had a narcissistic mother, as a schiz, we are invaded sort of thing, and we get imprinted with the other person's disorder, but that one is like a top plate, for me the fundamental structure is self in exile, (ie schizoid), so that although I 've got some traits, its more like the mirroring trait is loaded up onto the fundamental exile structure, so thats the one I most need to deal with. Its the internal stuff thats important, I believe, the external is just a variety of ways we deal with whats inside. When I read about self in exile, I could see my T. was right.
I want to ask for your help with something, I hope this will be ok.... I'll pm you.

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