I really feel for your situation. How you've characterized his response raises some concerns, specifically this exchange:
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he expressed how he felt abandoned and the situation uprooted feelings of being unloved, abandoned, his separation anxiety and loneliness. He felt betrayed that I didn't stay or return when he called.
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I'm not a therapist, but if you love this person and want a positive future together, I think you should encourage them to seek help for whatever these past issues are that are bleeding into the current relationship.
In the meantime, practice some Self-Compassion and talk kindly to yourself.