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Originally Posted by TrailRunner14
How do you do that?
How do you ask another part of you to come forward without them taking the steering wheel away from you?
I guess that would be asking that part to be co-conscious with you?
There are times that a part comes forward, without me asking as a response to a trigger, and I’m put in the passenger seat.
I would like to ask for help from parts of me that can handle things better than me and still be up front.
I may be talking in circles. I hope that makes sense.
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yes you make sense....
most people with out years of therapy and learning about their triggers and learning how to not dissociate cant do what you are asking. then again if they have the tools to not dissociate to where alters take control then they dont need their alters help its a catch 22 around here where I am.
I also feel I need to say something in regards to parts that may not be co conscious with you. (sometimes people who are DID dont always know all their parts (alters) but know some. I was this way with limited co consciousness.....)
in the event that you may have alters who you are not conscious with....first you might want to check with your local county and state ethics board if you want to do this with your therapist. its now a violation for treatment providers to do this.. put simply treatment for DID is now focus on learning things that prevent a person from dissociating to the extreme of switching into alters, not on purposely calling out alters, which can create many problems some of which are false memories, false alters, can cause a person to become suicidal or self injury and even death if they learn something that has been dissociated and they are not ready emotionally or physically ready and dont have the stabilizing tools to keep their self stable before, during and after.
if you plan on doing this on your own, one of the most important things is talk with your treatment providers. doing this and a different alter coming up can lead to a lot of complications, problems and quite frankly can be dangerous.
before you do something like this maybe re read your past posts and decide whether you are mentally and physically stable and have all the grounding tools, safety tools, good support network.... like I said accessing alters can result in alters you are not co conscious with which can be a very dangerous area of things.
if you are accessing co conscious parts (alters that you already know about, and can talk to, and can hear them share back and forth with each other) theres not much for you to do. you have already been doing what you are asking about, ( thats what co consciousness is) for how ever long you have already been co conscious with them for. its no big deal or activity you just do what you have always done, talk to them in how ever way you have already been doing, write to them in how ever ways you have already been doing or what ever ways you and your system does things.... your past posts here will give you an idea of how you have already been doing this for what ever amounts of time you have been co conscious with them.
but please be aware trying to purposely make an alter come out/ take control can harm you.
now that said Im going to show you something.....
Rainy was my alter that took control during thunder storms. in order for Rainy to come forwards/ take control I had to be out in a thunder storm, in other words exposed to what triggered me.
now if I tried to do what you are thinking of doing that would mean I would have to wait for a thunder storm. then go out into it. exposing myself to my trigger would cause me to have my dissociation symptoms (feeling numb spaced out disconnected, and others) which would in turn cause rainy to come forth and take control and handle that trigger... but also have all the tools and so on to hold myself steady, stable and aware.
on one side of the coin since in this situaiton if I was able to do this, that meant I had all the tools and so on to prevent having my dissociation problems and able to handle thunder storms on my own like breathing, calming myself down then finding a way to get home safe and dry. because I have all the tools to hold steady, stable and aware to do this then I have all that I need to do whats needed on my own with out rainy's help.
on the other side of the coin...
I dont know about you but I dont like feeling numb, spaced out, disconnected and my other dissociative symptoms. most people with severe dissociation problems dont like how they feel, thats why they are in therapy right to stop feeling this way..
my point I personally do not see any reason to make myself have my dissociation problems just so that Rainy would take control. if I did that my therapist would actually change my diagnosis to fictitious disorder imposed on self meaning I can control my problems to the point of causing myself to have the problems. it would actually go against my own treatment plans to purposely cause myself to dissociate (have my dissociation symptoms in order to call rainy forwards to help me during a thunderstorm.)
I rather prefer learning how to handle my triggers with out relying on dissociation to fix my problems.
mind you this is only what I would do.
you must make up your own mind whether you want to purposely cause yourself to have your dissociation problems so that you reach the point of dissociation with this alter, (assuming since you are asking about this that your co consciousness is limited with this alter ) and have all the tools you need to not dissociate to the point of losing control or using those tools to handle the problems on your own without causing yourself to dissociate to this extreme.