There's really nothing to be afraid of. I lived in NY for 24 out of my 26 years and now reside in Philadelphia. Personally, I have never been more scared then when my husband and I drove to Memphis and we had to make many stops in Virginia. It's dark, there is no one around, and no one would ever hear you scream. The country scares the living daylights outta me, I swear. The city is wonderful, there are always people around. And just to clarify, you'll find rude and obnoxious people everywhere-- not just in NY. I am not a big fan of DC. I mean, I loved the museums and everything, but as far as the city itself-- it's just not my kind of city. I agree with HeyJoe-- arm yourself with a salt pretzel and you'll be fine, lol.