Saudade, your honesty is so refreshing! I think we need more of that. I'm not sure if you refer to a sex therapist or a call girl. Either way, I've thought about maybe going to both over the years but decided not to. From what I understand anyway through what I've heard from experiencs of friends or all I've read, I do agree sex doesn't have to always go hand in hand with love as long as both people doing the act are on the same level and one isn't misleading the other. In my opinion, the belief that sex can only be with "love" is a common denial of the fact that we are only human. Anyway, if any woman is going to give me a sexual experience, I want to know it's not becase I have to pay for it but because she finds me attractive. After almost 43 years, I can say such a thing is impossible and having to live like this really is torture. Again, thank you for bring up something so thoughtful. ....Gary