Thanks, yes, it was, though I kept tripping over my words (a cup of tea didn't quite help enough). I let him know how the medical stuff went, then let him know I had a bit of unpleasantry to give him the heads up about (telling BF I was moving out). His response was essentially that he's created his own situation and will just have to deal with it. He won't be bailing him out, he's sick of it. I do not anticipate a good reaction. But again, it's about the history someone creates with another. You strengthen or weaken it with every event.

Didn't really see that coming though they've locked horns many a time. He was actually quite supportive and understanding of my situation.

I am anxious that this will have BF doubling down on my court, but I'll just have to remain strong. I DO think the situation and timing totally suck, but it doesn't change the larger problematic dynamic. I DO feel bad for him, even if I shouldn't. I can't keep from extending kindnesses (visiting, etc), but I can't go back to life as "normal".

Sigh. Did I say something about wishing for life to be simple sometimes??