Hello Outsider: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral.

I see your post was moved here to the relationships forum from the new members introductions forum. One additional forum that may be of interest would be the partners of people & caregivers forum. Here's a link to that one:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/part...ivers-support/

Here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of some help in putting the dilemma you & your family face into perspective, the first by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D.:

You Can Only Change Yourself

How To Help The Addict Who Doesn't Want Help | Addiction Recovery

6 Ways to Convince an Addict to Get Help

Healing Underlying Core Issues | Addiction and Mental Health Demystified

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/addic...-whole-family/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...essional-help/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/tms/2...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-way...-denial/?all=1

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.