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Originally Posted by DoroMona
Sometimes I use drawing as an outlet to satisfy my "want" for things. Like I love sweets. Sometimes I'll find a beautiful picture of a slice of cake and draw it rather than buying cake and eating it. Maybe you can find an artistic outlet to satisfy some of your cravings. BTW I'm a bad drawer and always was, but copying a clipart sketch off of the internet once a day gives me some satisfaction. And additionally, developing a skill you take pride in will help you value yourself regardless of your physical appearance. It could be anything, even just photography with your camera phone if you have one, or origami with newspaper. There's a materialistic satisfaction in creating an origami shape, drawing a picture, or taking a good photo. It certainly helps me spend less money!
Maybe there's a basis for your desire for things that you could slowly unravel. Sounds like you're already doing a lot of wrestling with yourself. I don't know if jealousy can maybe be a symptom of some childhood environment or experience, but if you keep on inspecting your feelings of jealousy and keep on trying to understand yourself, maybe you'll find some answers that can give you peace.
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I'm really bad at drawing. I actually have tried to draw some of these things but they turned out so bad they made me feel worse. I do look at pictures though, photos etc.
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Originally Posted by Sisabel
Are there goals you can set in order to obtain for yourself some of these things you really want?
For what it’s worth..... Disregard my story if it doesn’t apply.... Years ago I was married to someone who made a lot of money. When I left and moved into a small little house I was so happy because everything was mine - earned and paid for by me - and it was all paid for because I don’t like to be in debt. I sacrificed and saved for everything and I was content. I thought it was heaven compared to living with my ex. I remember my stomach would turn just thinking about the lifestyle my ex lived and I was so happy to be free of it.
My ex still makes a lot of money and still has lots of really nice things... a lot more than I will ever have... but he’s up to his eyeballs in debt and there is no peace in his lifestyle. I wouldn’t go back to that... ever...
There is always a different side to things that we do not see. When it comes to jealousy... we are only looking at one side. It’s not the whole picture and it’s not usually entirely true.
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Good point. These are things I can never have, even with money, and things I can't save up for or work towards. I have to accept that I can never have them. But some other people have them and it's not so much the object/situation that makes me jealous, but the fact that they can and I can't.