I was aware that things that I felt toward the last T included some negative transference. I could still turn those bad feelings "off" for the general sake of "getting along", but I was in therapy, so I thought it was best not to.

I would not ban T's with such counter-transference issues, but I would like to raise awareness among them of the effect on clients when that happens. It can be very harmful. I do think some training in recognizing clients with the kinds of rejection issues I had could be helpful -- how, I'm not sure. I could come up with some ideas, but I'm just suggesting right now that it is an issue that deserves to be raised. I expect others might come up with ideas, too.

It's not OK in my book to say that you were lucky and I was not. It seems OK to you, I can understand that, but it does not seem OK to me. No, there are things in life that are not OK. Doesn't mean they are going to go away, right away at least, but they are not OK. And eventually, some of those things do get better or go away -- although others replace them. Nevertheless, the general history of humanity is that we do sometimes recognize problems and make improvements.

OK with non-OKness, I can go with that. But strive and argue for improvements -- that's a choice I'm happy to make.