I don't know. I was extremely unlucky in terms of my parents and any adults that figured in my life in childhood. I could say that it wasn't ok and it's not ok but what does that accomplish. I am saying that it's not ok in terms of that I have strived to be and I am million times better parent to my own children. It does not compensate what I missed out though.

I guess what I'm trying to say that the change always happens in the level of particular people. You can't demand someone to change the whole system. The only thing you can do is to try to do something yourself (and I realise that this is what you are trying to do in some sense in this forum by raising these issues). But somehow I get the sense (maybe wrongly) that you would like to someone else to do something about it and I don't have much belief in that.

People do things that they find important. This topic is important to you, it's probably not that important to the majority of therapists because they never meet a patient like you. They can go through a course or whatever and it all remains a distant theory to them because they don't have the first hand experience of what it really means. And thus they are not interested. Why should they?

You are interested because it has affected you. I am interested because it has affected me but because it has affected me differently (I experience huge gratitude towards my T because when I contemplate what he has done for me then it looks unbelievable) and thus my interest is different. I would like to pay it forward if I can. I don't know yet if I can but if I can then I would like to do that.