Hello all, I am still struggling with a specific person after years of working towards leaving him and being free. Basically I am constantly fighting an internal struggle of guilt over the right thing to do.
When I left my children's father, he was cruel, intimidating and verbally abusive. Afterwards he transformed into being sad and suicidal which upset me but I stayed away. Fast forward to now, he no longer acts cruel in any way, helps when i need a hand with the kids etc. I am fully independent financially now, which helps a lot. Except he isn't.
He struggles to perform normal adult tasks, like paying rent, bills, food etc. He came to me for help 2 months ago, he had not been able to pay his rent or utilities so had no heat, electricity or food. He followed me and the kids when we moved 2 hours away so he has no family or friends close by that he can lean on either.

He is basically leaning on me to survive at the moment. I don't know why turning him away feels so evil.. I have the capacity to help... so shouldn't I? It feels wrong for me to help him, but also just as wrong to turn him out in the cold.

The problem is, he isn't even able to pay child support and hasn't for 3 months. I am struggling and he just clings to me for help. I'm tired of taking care of an adult..

Any input would be reassuring as I have told him today that he has to leave and get on with his own life. I'm feeling a little horrible right now.

Tia