Thanks. Yes, I think itīs more likely that she hasnīt been aware of my attachment or aware enough and she needed to read it upfront to be able to identify it. She said as late as before summer that she wouldnīt let me continue as long as we had (then it was about nine months) if she hadnīt felt we made progress.
Now, after seeing her three times after her summer vacation and this happens she suddenly tells me she canīt help me anymore. Thatīs overly transparent as I of course understands she doesnīt want to work through the attachment and probably she doesnīt know how either.
From what you mention in your case I think a therapist at least should give the client a chance to meet before delivering a decision about termination. Even if the therapist sometimes might have own reasons to terminate and thinks he/she needs to.
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Originally Posted by Wonderfalls
If she can't handle you then she can't handle you which would make her a bad therapist for you. She may have been pondering this for some time but not wanting to freak you out by saying so--maybe she thought she could get past the problems she was having, but couldn't
That sound like I'm defending her, but I'm not. Presumably she took on the job alert to what it would entail as any good therapist would. My therapist promised he wouldn't leave me (if he could help it--he ended up retiring after a long time) and he said that was part of the patient-therapist bond: that the patient be the one to decide. Telling you in an email was just cold.
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