What is the "chatting" vehicle you refer to ? FB , chess club , antique cars forum ? The place you chat will possibly makes a difference on who you meet there and what their agenda is , hidden or otherwise .

And yes ..you being a female alone is def enough for a proportion of guys to pursue you . Guys all have a portion of that in them . It's there to ensure the continuation of the species . Some guys are better at controlling that urge than others .

Was it Einstein who said that madness was continually doing something the same over and over and expecting a different result ?

If that's happening to you and you wish for a different result , then you have to change your method . Be that posting a pic of Kim Jong Un instead of your own , or posting no picture at all , or just telling it like it is regardless of people's feelings . Or not speaking to a section of the population who are likely to want more than you seek . We all have to take responsibility for our own actions in the end .