No, his kids don’t like me because we had 2 year affair many years ago (they found out it was me when we started officially dating) He was 50 and I was 23. We occasionally spoke a few times a year until until 2 years ago. Still live in the house but currently in process of purchasing it from him.
I feel very stupid because it’s not like I didn’t know how he was. I just never saw this side of him. He would do whatever and I would get upset for a few hours and outwardly let it go and keep the hurt bottled up. He would be so sorry for hurting me, etc and be so loving for a while. I saw the pattern. But I knew how unhappy he was in the marriage and I was going to show him that I wasn’t like her and I understood him. I put him first and pushed away people who were close to me. I’m right in thinking now that he really was only using me to get through whatever grief he had over losing her and building up his ego/self-esteem. I know that if I had done what I was told and never contacted the new girlfriend, he would still be seeing us both. He was doing just that to begin with. Why is it, knowing that he used me and only cared about me when it suited a purpose for him, why can’t I get over this and get on with a normal life. It’s been 6 months. He changed basically overnight towards me with no explanation or caring how he made me feel or continued to make me feel. What in the world is wrong with me that I feel like he’s right and I’m wrong for all of this when it never had to turn out this way.